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  1. Heal self-defeating thoughts: “I stunk at math and my kids will stink too!” This was my greatest self-sabotaging thought as a Mom, and I had to heal! As Moms we allow toxic negative thoughts to run through our minds every single day. It’s time to stop it this school year! Moms can be defeated in their parenting before they get out of bed in the morning. Thoughts can’t be removed—they have to be replaced. So here is what every Mom needs to try: Face the fear. Just because you aren’t good at math, for example, doesn’t mean that’s going to be your child’s truth. It’s hard, but arrest those thoughts as soon as they enter into your mind (handcuff it literally). Then replace the negative “Jimmy isn’t going to “get” math thought with “Jimmy is smart, resourceful and able to do it!” (Plus Mom, you can hire a tutor or grab a homework coach to support him). Repeat these “healing” thoughts and strategies every time those old self-defeating ones come up.
  2. Have patience with yourself: Life takes patience—especially life as a Mom! So the cookies burned up—run to the store and put some store bought cookies on the tray to send into school! So your child is wearing the same socks two days in a row—he/she won’t die, cut yourself some slack. Take a deep breath, slowly exhale and give yourself the gift of having patience with YOU every day this school year.
  3. Attend to your own needs: It’s hard for Moms to “put their oxygen masks on first.” I know. I’ve raised four kids! The boldest thing Moms can do is dare to take care of themselves first. Get up early and go out on that Saturday morning run. Grab that cup of coffee with a friend for girl talk. Take a long bath locked behind closed doors at midnight! Attending to your own needs first is taking the time to honor you, and preparing to be the best Mom possible for your kids this school year. You can’t be who you haven’t nurtured and you can’t give what you don’t have.
  4. Know what makes you smile: We lose sight of how much joy our children really do bring into our lives underneath the crushing weight of the responsibility of parenting. This school year, remember over and over again what you love about your children. What do your kids do that only they can do to make you smile? My son is the only one on the planet that can flash those eyes and teeth and melt my heart! I know this and I look forward to it. Moms, plan for moments of laughter throughout the school year while in the car line, waiting after practices or trudging through homework. Lighten your life by knowing what makes you smile.
  5. Put everything in perspective: Before you know it, the kids are gone. I know this sounds cliché but, because I am acutely aware of how real this really is, I want to encourage you to stroll slowly through this school year rather than trying to get through it in a dash! The scariest thing you can do as a Mom is to will yourself to keep the bigger picture in mind. Don’t sacrifice the relationship with your kids while trying to preserve your reputation as “Mom.” It can be hard to keep the bigger picture in mind when they won’t get out of bed in the morning; but trust me it’s worth keeping a lifetime with your child in mind every single day this school year.

Jennifer Keitt is the author of the new book “Shake Up Your Life!” Please visit her website at http://www.jenniferkeitt.com  

reflectingThe first step on the path to reinvention is very personal and internal. It’s reflection. Reflection is that process of thinking quieting and calmly. When we reflect we are able to mine the treasures of valuable information, ideas and opinions that are lying deep within our soul that can inform us, inspire us and motivate us toward greater heights in our lives. Let me tell you what happens during our lives. We get into automatic pilot mode—get up in the morning, get ready for work, get the kids ready, kiss the husband, feed the dog, off to work, pick up dinner on the way home, only to put in a few more hours of family time—you know the drill. This cycle—which I call the life treadmill—keeps going. But here’s a secret. YOU CONTROL THE TREADMILL’S OFF BUTTON! Reflection turns the treadmill off. At the Y that I go to the treadmills have a big RED button on them—you can’t miss ‘em. The button turns the machine OFF.

Reflection is your big red button that turns the treadmill of your life OFF, so that you can breathe, you can think…so that you can actually form an opinion or idea about what you want to reinvent or change or make new in your life. Don’t attempt a New Year’s resolution, or a new goal until you’ve pushed the red button on the treadmill of your life and have STOPPED the madness to sit down and reflect on what you REALLY want, what you REALLY think, and what you REALLY want to REINVENT about you or your life. Step one on the path to reinvented living is to REFLECT. Mine the treasures of your heart in order to discover what you really want, think and focus on in your personal reinvention process. Use these reflection questions in order to make the most of your reflection time! Registration is underway to my huge REINVENTION CONVENTION, Power Breakfast 2013 on Saturday March 16th! It’s being held at the Georgia International Convention Center starting at 8:00 am. REGISTER TODAY! http://www.tbwpowerbreakfast.com for registration/breakfast details!

REFLECTION QUESTIONS

1. As you enjoy the calm and silence during reflection ask yourself, “Who do I really want to become this year?”

2. What is the ONE area that you think needs reinventing in your life?

3. What is holding you back right now from taking your next necessary step?

3. Who do you need to connect with, or bring onto your dream team in order to accomplish your reinvention goal?

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I think that if we’re not really careful life can get away from us and we can miss the opportunity to connect with those who mean the most to us. We are always moving a hundred miles per hour! Well today, if it’s o.k. with you I want to slow things down.

I was talking to a friend recently and I told her that ever since 911 happened, I’ve been extremely intentional about how I live—including making sure that I say I love you to all of my kids and my husband every single day because I don’t know if that will be the last time that I get a chance to say I Love You and I don’t want to miss that opportunity.

As Americans we are notoriously guilty of DOING THE MOST for everyone else, especially working all of the time, even to the neglect of our own well-being and our families! As a nation we’re OBSESSED with work. An article on cnn.com that I was reading this week said there should be a warning sign posted in our workplaces that says “WARNING: WORKING TOO MANY WEEKS WITHOUT A VACATION IS GOING TO KILL YOU!”  Studies have shown that we don’t take vacations. In fact, we skip vacations and these same studies say that there’s a chance that we may DIE YOUNGER than those people who do take vacations.

Now I know everyone can’t afford the huge, luxury get away, I’m not only talking about that. What about being intentional about relaxing or connecting with our loved ones everyday? What about being quiet daily or being still or giving thanks, letting go, sitting down and eating dinner with family or friends?

Ladies and Gentlemen, today’s show is designed TO SAVE YOUR LIFE—literally!

Today, I’m going to help you STAYCATE, VACATE AND RELAX in your life! We need this! Some of you view taking a vacation as sign of weakness. I can remember early on in my career, I wanted to work harder, faster, stronger than everyone—to prove I was a team player, be in the mix of what was happening. But the truth is, bodies that are exhausted, mentally fatigued, stressed out, aren’t doing anyone ANY good!

Others of you apologize for taking a vacation feeling guilty. I was on HLN TV network recently talking about this very subject. Many people don’t vacation because they think they can’t afford it, or the work piles up and they have to do SO MUCH when they get back that they think the vacation isn’t worth it. And still others admit that their workplaces don’t have a CULTURE OF ACCEPTING VACATIONS. Who wants to be afraid of getting FIRED or if you’re PENALIZED if you take a vacation? I get it!

Yet our bodies, minds, souls and spirits MUST HAVE REST. Guys…Even God rested on the seventh day!

I want you to call me and tell me if you take vacations, why or why not? Is it true for you that you just can’t take a vacation? What’s stopping you? Or are you a world traveler and know how to vacation and want to help the rest of us? Post your comments below.

Since the recession began people have cut back discretionary spending and one of the first things to go was the family vacation. Instead of expensive airline tickets and hotel stays, people have been getting VERY creative and are having STAY-AT-HOME-VACATIONS, or the staycation! You can afford to stay right at home and vacate! Things like TAKING NAPS, lounging around the house—going to a state park close to home, hosting a barbeque or spending time with the kids… the point is that you DON’T have to have a lot of money in order to vacate or relax. If you’ve gotten into STAYCATIONS let me know your best ideas below.

I am your chief empowerment officer, JENNIFER KEITT and the JENNIFER KEITT SHOW airs on KISS 104, ATLANTA’S R&B every Sunday evening from 7 -8 pm ET.

LISTEN NOW to this show on staycations, vacations and & relaxation by CLICKING HERE.

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With Father’s Day this past Sunday, I realized that the DAD conversation is very challenging for me. In fact, while preparing for my special Father’s Day show, I ran across an article written in the Washington Post entitled YOUR DAD, YOUR HERO.

This article really bothered me.

It said, “Dad is a provider and a protector. He will screw together cribs, build forts and read the same worn children’s book over and over again. He picks up toys and cleans up messes, and tends to bumps and scrapes. If something is broken, he fixes it. He will drop his work to throw a ball around for awhile – then get back to what he was doing and finish the job. He was there when you took your first step, and when you started off to school. He is the one you ran to saying “Daddy!” when he got home from work. He is good-natured and always has a joke ready. He helps play pranks, even if it means being the object of them. When you tried to surprise him he was always surprised. You rarely saw him angry, and you tried hard to keep it that way.”

This editorial bothered me because this sounds like a fantasy—my Dad never did any of these things. And to this day, I still wonder how the DAD HOLE in my soul impacts me. My Dad was married to my Mom and for 17 years they stayed married, but he wasn’t around. He lived his life, did his thing, did keep a roof over our heads and food on the table, but was completely unavailable physically or emotionally.

For a long time, I wanted a hero dad. Like my daughters are with my husband, I wanted to be daddy’s little girl. Yet I am my Father’s daughter—inside and out—for better and many times for worse.

What about you? What kind of relationship did you have with your Dad? I want to know, please post your comments. What’s the most important thing that you’ve gained from your Dad? Or, what do you feel you lack or lost out on without a Dad in your life? Let’s talk!

My Father’s Day show was amazing, and many people weighed in on their Dads. You can hear the show by clicking here. Be sure to visit my website at http://www.jenniferkeitt.com and subscribe to the podcast of my show!


[1] http://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2012/06/120615-fathers-day-2012-dads-gifts-history-culture/

I was reading a blog this week in which the author told of his recent visit to a 5th grade class to talk with the kids about money. And as kids do, one little girl asked “How much money do you have?” And the author said, “I’m not going to answer that.”  And then another kid chimed in, “Nobody answers that! How come?”  The kid’s questions left the author and me wondering well why not? Why don’t we talk about money like that, you know the real deal, how much we make? How much we have? How much we’re worth?

Is it just that we’re uncomfortable talking about money, well, our money in particular? Or is it because we don’t want to be judged or ridiculed? Why is money the ELEPHANT IN THE ROOM that nobody talks about?

When my husband and I had kids, we decided that we wanted them to know everything possible about money and to this day, our kids know our salaries, what our home costs, how much we have in savings and investments. But honestly, I can remember when my kids were young, I would hush them when they commented on someone else’s financial status. It always came up when they would visit friends who had nice things, or large houses, or what appeared to be lots of money. You know how we do, we whisper about people behind their backs, “I wonder how she affords those shoes or that car?” Or “How much do you think their house costs?” We talk about how much we think they have or think they make or how much we think they don’t have or make, and be honest, we’ll attempt to keep up with our peers regardless of whether we really know their real money deal!

So what’s our real discomfort about talking about money?  I’m asking because every survey that I’ve looked at says that Americans think and worry a lot about money! AARP did a study of young adults ages 18 – 34. It said that 57% of young Americans consider their financial situation to be the biggest concern in their lives. Take 100 young adults and 57 of them consider their finances to be the BIGGEST concern of their lives. And we don’t talk about it? Why?

But here’s here how money shows up in our daily lives, listen to the comments some people posted on a website I was browsing, regarding money issues:

  • Today, my boyfriend told me that he wanted to break up with me but it had to be after our cruise together because he doesn’t want to lose out on money…Can’t wait for the Bahamas!
  • (This one was sad) Today, I was so broke I went to Costco, not to buy anything, but to eat their free food samples.
  • And one more…today, I found out that my girlfriend has been paying her half of the rent by taking my ATM card and getting money from my account.

And we won’t and don’t talk about money? What in the world?!

I’ve been doing my own survey this week and here’s some of the top concerns of my listeners:

  • I am concerned about maintaining the emergency fund
  • I’m concerned about my husband’s employment (I don’t work outside the home)
  • I’m concerned about college savings
  • And I’m concerned about when will we have MORE than enough

People have told me about some of their worst financial experiences…being laid off for 10 months and having NO income…or going through a divorce, and losing one income. And yet, WE DON’T TALK ABOUT MONEY? C’mon now! Today, can we begin to change this? Why? Because you and I are worried about not having enough for retirement, young adults have debt up to their eyeballs and we shouldn’t continue to ignore the ELEPHANT in the room.

So, tell me, what do you think? Why don’t people talk about money? Is it just to avoid discomfort? Or are there more practical reasons to avoid money discussions? More to the point, in your own life, with whom do you have money discussions? What sorts of things do you talk about regarding money? Listen to what my listeners said on the air! CLICK HERE to hear The Jennifer Keitt Show Podcast.

Personally I think we’re scared to tell the real deal because we’re afraid of being judged or looked down on or even looked up to as the source for others, but what do you think? LEAVE YOUR COMMENTS BELOW and be sure to visit my website at www.jenniferkeitt.com. I am your chief empowerment officer, Jennifer Keitt and you can listen to The Jennifer Keitt Show every Sunday on KISS 104, Atlanta’s R&B!

Today I’m talking about a topic that, as women, we think about or talk about EVERY SINGLE DAY. The subject: HOW WE LOOK! And here’s where it starts, from the moment we’re born people comment on our ‘beauty:’

“Oh…she’s so cute. Look at those “chubby cheeks and hair!”

Then as we grow into toddlers and young kids and more comments:

She’s a little chunky, she didn’t lose that “baby fat” yet?

Her hair is so nappy, whatcha gonna do with that?

And then we go through the awkward puberty stage and it’s full-blown war!

You ain’t gonna never get a man looking like that!

Put a bra on!

You’re flat-chested!

Wear a dress so you can look like a lady!

Don’t wear that dress you look like you know what!

We are told over and over and over again HOW WE LOOK and it’s based on everyone else’s opinion. It is no wonder women today are TIRED, CONFUSED, FRUSTRATED and SICK of folk telling us WHAT BEAUTY IS!!

A recent PEOPLE Magazine named BEYONCE the MOST BEAUTIFUL WOMAN IN THE WORLD! My goodness, how do you get to be labeled the MOST BEAUTIFUL WOMAN IN WORLD?? What pressure! Is it her eyes, her lips, her curves, her singing ability—what makes BEYONCE the most beautiful woman in the world? Here’s what she said in the article when asked HOW DOES IT FEEL BEING NAMED WORLD’S MOST BEAUTIFUL WOMAN?

She answered, “It’s overwhelming! But it is such an honor. I feel more beautiful than I’ve ever felt, because I’ve given birth. I have never felt so connected and never felt like I had such a purpose on this earth.” She feels beautiful because of giving birth and having purpose (not because of her hair length, eye color or body shape)

So what makes you feel beautiful? Are you comfortable in your own skin? For me, IT TOOK A LONG, LONG time to deal with this beauty issue. So many women—grapple and wrestle with this thing called beauty every, single day. And for many of us, if we’re honest, we’re losing the battle. Many women don’t like what they see in the mirror. Many women don’t like the texture of their hair, or the size of their butts, or their skin color.

You know, one of the biggest influences on beauty images comes from the toy and movie industries. I can remember one Christmas, I wanted a Black baby doll that I saw in a store. My Mother had to search high and low to find that ONE Black baby doll for me. When I opened her that Christmas morning, I was in heaven! Seeing my color on a baby dolls’ skin was HUGE…and she took center stage for a long time in my doll collection laying on top of all the other dolls. When Mattel finally got it and started making BLACK Barbie Dolls that weren’t just white dolls spray painted Black but Disney did take their sweet time before FINALLY giving us a BLACK PRINCESS!

Anika Noni Rose is the wonderful actress who played Tiana, Disney’s first Black Princess, and she told me that she’s thrilled that she got the chance to help shape young girl’s beauty and esteem!

LISTEN TO THE PODCAST OF THE ENTIRE SHOW HERE

Mirror, Mirror on the wall are we really the most beautiful of them all? Tell me what you think!  I’ve been questioning and polling on FACEBOOK and I want to hear from you. How do you define beauty?

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What truly makes a woman beautiful? Long hair, short hair, skin color and GENTLEMAN I especially want to hear your take on this! Tell me about the first time you came face-to-face with your looks when did beauty become real for you? My show HOTLINE number is always open, 404-906-7720. I am your CHIEF EMPOWERMENT OFFICER, Jennifer Keitt and you can listen to THE JENNIFER KEITT SHOW on KISS 104, Atlanta’s R&B every Sunday, 7 -8 pm ET or you can hear my Today’s Black Woman Radio Show Vignettes daily nationwide.

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I was on Headline News on Friday and on my way home from the CNN studios I passed the World Congress Center and tons of folks were pouring out, GRADUATES, families and friends everywhere. It is officially GRADUATION SEASON here in Atlanta!

With the passing of Donna Summer, this week, I started reminiscing as many of you did, thinking about the DISCO era, her music…(toot toot…yeah…beep, beep)…you remember! Those were my high school and college years. Decades ago.

This year, I am celebrating my 30th YEAR HIGH SCHOOL REUNION! Shout out to class of 1982 and today, I thought it would be FUN and DIFFERENT to talk about our HIGH SCHOOL YEARS, the friends, dreams, crazy times, when life was EASY. I know some of you might want to forget, but honestly reflection is good for the soul.

In preparation for this show, I pulled out my HIGH SCHOOL MEMORY book. Flipping through the pages, I was surprised to find a page in my Memory Book entitled “AFTERGLOW.” On this page,  as graduating Seniors we could write our hopes and aspirations for our future. I had totally forgotten that I wrote this. And here’s what I wrote verbatim UNEDITED as a graduating Senior in May of 1982:

“After it’s all over, the fun and excitement of my “senior” year, what’s next? Well, as far as I can see college and getting out on my own are the next two important steps that I will have to take… to fulfill my dreams, first of becoming a psychologist, then maybe marrying a wonderful RICH man (smile)! Seriously, though, the person I marry will be wonderful and I will be in love and my marriage will definitely work! If I can accomplish all of those things I can safely say that my life will be successful and complete. Children are in my dreams, two, to be exact; a boy and a girl. I’m wishing myself the strength and courage and even a little luck to make my like everything I want it to be!”

WOW!

Those words were almost prophetic! Here I am today, married 27 years, having not two, but FOUR kids and while I never got a psychology degree, I’ve done TONS of counseling and coaching and empowering people every day of my life.

You know, isn’t it funny how life works? Our dreams and hopes and plans when we’re graduating from HIGH SCHOOL can either pull us uncannily into what we’re desiring or our lives can take on a completely different trajectory.

There’s a new book out by Alice Randall entitled, “Ada’s Rules. Here’s the storyline:
“…Ada is so busy taking care of those around her – her two grown daughters, elderly parents, and the kids at her day job – that she loses herself.  An invitation to her 25th anniversary college reunion is a game changer for Ada.  She takes a deep look in her physical and spiritual mirror and decides that she wants to get back to the Ada who was once happy, fit and fabulous.  As a result, Ada establishes “Ada’s Rules: Fifty-Three Perfect Rules for an Imperfect but Excellent Health and Beauty Revival.”

Ada sounds like so many of us years after our HIGH SCHOOL and COLLEGE days! So, I’d be honored if you’d tell me your story: WHAT DID YOU WANT TO BE WHEN YOU WERE GRADUATING FROM HIGH SCHOOL? Did you become that? Call me on my show hotline number (we record the shows for playback on the air anonymously) 404-906-7720. As you graduated from HIGH SCHOOL have your dreams come to pass? How did you get where you are now? In fact, WHERE are you now? Post your comments.

We’ve had a great show! LISTEN to the PODCAST by CLICKING HERE. I’ve also introduced a new feature: an “after the show” video interview with some of my guests.

I am your chief empowerment officer, JENNIFER KEITT and this is The Jennifer Keitt Show on KISS 104, Atlanta’s R&B!

Just think about it, EVERY HUMAN BEING ON THE PLANET has a Mother! Over 7 billion humans—that a whole lot of MOMMIES in the world!  Well here in the US here are the stats: 85 million Mothers; 5 million are stay-at-home Moms, while 55% work outside the home. And there are 10 million single Moms.

There was a recent USDA report that said the cost of raising a baby for the first year, for the average middle-income family, is roughly 12, 000 dollars. Now I’m sure it’s debatable as to whether or not that number increases as they get older (I for one KNOW that it does), so conclusion: KIDS ARE EXPENSIVE! Not to mention the emotional and mental cost Moms pay every day. Here’s a recent post that I read:

“Rough start this morning. Tried to do the mommy thing and actually take my kids to school. The plan was to drop kids off and then write all morning. Well, (my son) wanted me to walk him in and refused to get out the car. I finally got him out but then he didn’t want to grab his book bag. So here I am yelling and screaming for him to hurry up because of all the cars behind us. I ended up throwing the book bag out of the car and then he wouldn’t close the door. To top it off my husband was on hold and when I got back on the phone, he was like, “honey, don’t yell …. be patient…. when he does that, I get out and help him out of the car…he’ll be okay…the other parents can wait….” Of course, this doesn’t help. It took me 30 mins and a chickfil A burrito to calm me down. And I was going to have lunch with them?!?! Whew…. Being a mommy is not easy.

If I could have a DOLLAR for every time I felt like she did, I’d be RICH right about now! Motherhood is the most FABULOUS gift we have as women, and yet sometimes it can feel so scary.

Jill Smokler writes the popular SCARY MOMMY BLOG. Listen to some of these Mom confessions:

  • I am so lonely. I am actually considering renting a friend.
  • I hate it when my emotional first reactions come back to bite me in the ass. I’m so sorry I misjudged the situation.
  • I hate shared custody! Afraid that I won’t bond with my daughters if I only see them every other week. How can you parent like that? But what other way is there? Neither dad or I could go more than a week w/o them.
  • The baby just pooped really loud and it scared him! I laughed so hard he started to cry. ( Mom of the year here)

There is NOTHING else like being a Mom! That’s why this special show is just for you—today’s Mom. I KNOW how important it is TO NOT FEEL YOU’RE ALL ALONE with the thoughts and emotions running around inside your head. As we take the time to celebrate our Moms today, let’s also take the time to find out—for real—what’s going on inside her heart.

PlumDistrict.com polled over 19,000 women and eight out of ten said they would prefer to sleep in on Mother’s Day instead of watching the sunrise with their kids. One out of three admitted that they secretly want to be alone on the holiday. When CafeMom readers were asked to contribute to a Mother’s Day wish list, the theme was overwhelmingly the same. “A day off from EVERYTHING.”

It’s time and it’s so important to LISTEN to our Moms. And that’s exactly what we’re going to do on today’s show. Step Moms, Single Moms, Mother’s who stay-at-home, Moms who are entrepreneurs—even MICHAEL JORDAN’S Mom are on the show today—all here to discuss what’s REALLY on Mom’s heart—Mom Confessions…a special Mother’s Day Show, just for you.

CLICK HERE to listen to this very powerful show and breathe…YOU’RE NOT ALONE! Visit my website at www.jenniferkeitt.com for more information. Be sure to listen to The Jennifer Keitt Show every Sunday, 7 -8 pm ET on KISS 104, Atlanta’s R&B!

 

The topic today: CRAZY FUNERALS! Yeah, you heard me, CRAZY FUNERALS!

Now what is a crazy funeral, you might ask? Well it’s like one that I attended. A close family member died and I was one of the speakers in the funeral.
Ask me why I had to ask one of my other relatives WHO the person was that was listed on the program—because the name that I knew this family member as—WAS NOT the name on the program. Now mind you I GREW UP WITH THIS MAN!! And then, ask me why in one of the front row sections did a young man sit down in the midst of my family—who NO ONE had ever seen? I noticed that all of my relatives started whispering, pointing and looking dumfounded about who this young man was! And then I found myself moments later having to introduce another SON that we nothing about!

What in the world!

So at the get together after the funeral, we spent HOURS trying to figure out who the man was that we just buried!! It was CRAZY! And mind you, crazy funerals happen ALL the time. The family drama, the money fights, the folks who show up at funerals that had secrets lives with the decedent.

Well o.k. here’s some more crazy. At my Father’s funeral, my Uncle sat in the front row, LITERALLY killing me with his eyes because he was FURIOUS with me for what he thought I should have done for my Dad. I remember getting through my remarks with daggers coming at me a mile a minute…from many in the audience, because my Father’s side of the family was and still is a difficult part of my life. For example, as my Father was literally on his death-bed in the hospital I had to attend the “brothers and sister” conversation that we had in the middle of a mall with my father’s other son and my brothers and me, awkward to say the least! We don’t speak to each other! Then there was my father’s youngest daughter who was at the funeral trying to find her place in this mess…and of course there was the tension between me and my father’s other wife and his family members.

It was CRAZY!

Ladies, and Gentlemen CRAZY FUNERALS happen all the time and they happen because we fail to have the important conversations with ourselves and our loved ones. So, you know me, I’ve decided it’s time to start today—with this post! In my 26 years in radio broadcasting I have NEVER discussed funerals. I want families to be whole, to be well—to share their stories and to NOT be drama-ridden OR HAVE CRAZY FUNERALS! That’s why I am talking about it with you.

My phone lines are open—I want to hear your CRAZY FUNERAL stories! You’ve got ‘em, you’ve either been to one, know of one, OR are anticipating one with maybe one of your loved ones! Call me now, 404-906-7720 to tell me your story. I bet you have NEVER been asked by a talk show host to share your CRAZY FUNERAL STORIES!!! First time for everything! Call me 404-906-7720.

The first step that we can take in eliminating CRAZY FUNERALS is to have important conversation with ourselves. As morbid as this may sound, I’ve talked to me about how I envision my death. And my family already knows. You stop any of my children or my husband and ask them what does your mother and wife want when she’s buried and they can tell you—NO open casket, NO long funeral, NO long speeches and NO sobbing or tears. I want my picture looking FABULOUS and I want for those attending to CELEBRATE my life with a party. Plus, I’ve taken all the steps to have my affairs in order—they know about the life insurance policies, where the important documents are, they know about the checking, savings, retirement accounts—I keep my life in order. And I want you to too.

I wish I could say the same about my close family members—I am unfortunately, anticipating some CRAZY FUNERALS so that’s why this show is just as important for me as it is for you. We can learn together how to begin to get our lives in order and have the IMPORTANT conversations with our loved ones. I am your CHIEF EMPOWERMENT OFFICER, Jennifer Keitt and I encourage you to listen to this INCREDIBLE SHOW. (CLICK HERE) The stories we heard…unbelievable! And the advice given…invaluable!!  The Jennifer Keitt Show is on KISS 104, Atlanta’s R&B, every Sunday 7 – 8 pm ET. Be sure to visit my website at www.jenniferkeitt.com to stay connected.
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I’m eager to jump right into tonight’s show—the topic sexual education, 101, yep, SEX ED 101!

I remember my first Sex Ed class. I was 16, taking the ‘mandatory’ health class that we had to take in High School. I remember sitting in the dark looking at grotesque slides and complicated pictures and diagrams as the teacher droned on and on about STD’s. I learned absolutely nothing; except how to giggle at the male anatomy with my friends and wonder “how in the heck a baby was going to come out of THERE??”

Last summer I wrote a curriculum for young women entitled SEXUALLY HEALTHY WOMEN. It was for one of my classes and I am currently in the process of publishing it, but I tell you what I learned when I put together that curriculum was astounding. In her book, “Longing To Tell,” author Tricia Rose shares important insight from the stories of adult Black women. If we use her words to get a glimpse into the first orientation that many Black women have had, regarding their sexuality, Rose’s work is eye-opening. She says, “Most of the women with whom I spoke learned about sex and menstruation from peers, siblings, feminine-products, contraceptive pamphlets, and popular culture.”

Unbelievable!

Needless to say, I NEVER learned or truly felt comfortable about my sexuality, my understanding about sex or even HOW to have GREAT SEX because I wasn’t taught and it’s not chic to ask questions.

My guess is that you may relate all too well with what I’m saying.

Truth be told, we stumble through the dark, with misinformation or NO information and then wonder why we have so many challenges with sex? But you don’t have to believe me; research shows about 66% of all women have sexual concerns. You know, a woman’s sexuality (or a man’s) is a complex interplay of physical and emotional responses. Our sexuality affects the way we think and feel about ourselves. And when a woman or a man has sexual problems, it can impact many aspects of our lives, including our personal relationships and our self-esteem. Sadly many men and women are hesitant to talk about their sexuality with their health care professionals or even their spouses. Instead, we needlessly suffer in silence.

Not anymore. We’re talking SEX-ED 101—what we should have been taught about SEX! I want you to join in to the conversation, starting right now, call me and tell me HOW you learned about sex, 404-906-7720, I WANT to hear your stories.

A sexually healthy woman (or man) is emotionally intelligent, connected to her innermost values, beliefs, feelings and motivators and is able to successfully navigate her boundaries first with herself and then with others. There are five areas that we want to consider when discussing our sexual health:

1.  A sexually healthy woman recognizes the impact media and societal messages have had (and still have) on the shaping of a woman’s identity and sexual behavior.

2.  A sexually healthy woman is fully aware of her sexual (hi)story! She recognizes that her sexual story begins the moment she is born and is a continuous journey, and a sexually healthy woman knows and has reflected on her unique story.

3.  A sexually healthy woman has taken sexual inventory looking comprehensively at such things as her body boundaries, relationship models and choices, safe sex behaviors, sexual responses, sexual activities and reproductive choices.

4.  A sexually healthy woman is engaged with and understands how she values herself, her self-esteem and has explored her thoughts and feelings surrounding her body image.

5.  A sexually healthy woman has taken the time to reflect on the men (and women) that have helped shape her sexuality so that she is able to enter into and navigate freely into healthy sexual relationships.

Finally, sexually healthy women HONOR themselves inside and out! They’re able to remain true to their own heart, values, and beliefs no matter what is said to her or about her; they are comfortable and confident honoring the power of their femininity and sexuality.

We had a VERY FULL show on this topic SEX ED 101—what we should have been taught about SEX! LISTEN NOW TO THE SHOW!

As always I am taking your questions and comments, 404-906-7720. You have GOT to join the conversation. How did you learn about sex—friends, parents, TV?? I want to know, 404-906-7720. I am YOUR CHIEF EMPOWERMENT OFFICER, Jennifer Keitt and The Jennifer Keitt Show airs every Sunday 7 -8 pm on KISS 104, Atlanta’s R&B!

Visit my website http://www.jenniferkeitt.com for more information.

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