Fresh Grass Meadow and TreeWe have all been robbed.

My husband and I had just been seated for dinner last night when the news of Robin Williams’ death popped up on my phone. I looked up at Tony as he was looking around the restaurant. Simultaneous sadness came across the faces of men and women and families, table after table, as we all heard the news of his passing. I felt robbed, like someone stole something precious and valuable.

And in fact, that’s exactly what happened. Robin Williams’ life was a gift and the gift has been taken from us all.

It’s time that we really, truly understand just how valuable all of our lives are and why we matter. I don’t believe that we have the right to take our lives because our lives are a gift to this world. And without the gift of you and me, we all lose.

Please, from this day forward, act like your life is valuable. How do you do that? Here’s how.

KNOW WHERE YOUR VALUE COMES FROM

Ascribe your value to the fact that you didn’t create you. You are not your own idea. You, and I are God’s creation and God’s brilliant idea. How do I know? He said so.

“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you . . .”—Jeremiah 1:5

When you and I know—really know deep down—that we are priceless, that’s a game-changer. Priceless items are cherished. Priceless items are revered. Priceless items are held in the highest esteem and are sought after. Robin Williams was priceless—his work is his testimony of the value he brought to the world. And the same holds true for you. Draw strength from your value as a creation—a masterpiece—of God.

DRAW STRENGTH FROM THE LOVE AROUND YOU

Never take for granted being loved and loving. It’s time out for being in relationships that we don’t draw strength from. It broke my heart to read how much Robin Williams was loved and to see that being loved wasn’t enough to keep him here. In acting like our lives are valuable, it’s imperative that we draw strength from the love of our family—our husbands, and wives, our children and significant others. We should be intentional about using their love to fuel us and compel us forward. I love this quote:

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”—Margott

Become courageous from this day forward by deeply loving those whom God has placed in your life. And allow their love for you to fuel you forward knowing just how valuable you are.

ENGAGE IN EXTREME SELF-CARE

Apparently we aren’t very good at caring for ourselves. I say this because of the large amount of stress, anxiety, depression and negativity that rules the headlines of our lives. “I’m not good enough.” “I don’t matter.” “My life is so hard.” On and on we let these destructive thoughts tear us down inwardly, eventually taking their toll.

I say no more. Learn just how valuable you are and act like it by first loving yourself!

Love yourself by engaging in what I call extreme self-care. Start here: get your life done in six days instead of seven. What do I mean? Call one day a week sacred. Call it off-limits. Erect a barrier around 24 hours of your week and just do you. Some call it a Sabbath—I call it a lifeline, a necessity, a method of extreme care that could just save our sanity, and lives. You and I have 168 hours every week. You can afford to give 24 of those hours back to yourself to invest in your mental, spiritual, emotional and relational wellbeing. Try it, please, this week.

Bottom-line, you matter. I matter. We all are a gift to this world. It’s time. Let’s act like our lives are valuable. Starting today.

Visit my website www.jenniferkeitt.com for more life empowering resources including my brand new book “Shake Up Your Life: 30 Steps To Powerful Brilliant Living”

 

 

  1. Heal self-defeating thoughts: “I stunk at math and my kids will stink too!” This was my greatest self-sabotaging thought as a Mom, and I had to heal! As Moms we allow toxic negative thoughts to run through our minds every single day. It’s time to stop it this school year! Moms can be defeated in their parenting before they get out of bed in the morning. Thoughts can’t be removed—they have to be replaced. So here is what every Mom needs to try: Face the fear. Just because you aren’t good at math, for example, doesn’t mean that’s going to be your child’s truth. It’s hard, but arrest those thoughts as soon as they enter into your mind (handcuff it literally). Then replace the negative “Jimmy isn’t going to “get” math thought with “Jimmy is smart, resourceful and able to do it!” (Plus Mom, you can hire a tutor or grab a homework coach to support him). Repeat these “healing” thoughts and strategies every time those old self-defeating ones come up.
  2. Have patience with yourself: Life takes patience—especially life as a Mom! So the cookies burned up—run to the store and put some store bought cookies on the tray to send into school! So your child is wearing the same socks two days in a row—he/she won’t die, cut yourself some slack. Take a deep breath, slowly exhale and give yourself the gift of having patience with YOU every day this school year.
  3. Attend to your own needs: It’s hard for Moms to “put their oxygen masks on first.” I know. I’ve raised four kids! The boldest thing Moms can do is dare to take care of themselves first. Get up early and go out on that Saturday morning run. Grab that cup of coffee with a friend for girl talk. Take a long bath locked behind closed doors at midnight! Attending to your own needs first is taking the time to honor you, and preparing to be the best Mom possible for your kids this school year. You can’t be who you haven’t nurtured and you can’t give what you don’t have.
  4. Know what makes you smile: We lose sight of how much joy our children really do bring into our lives underneath the crushing weight of the responsibility of parenting. This school year, remember over and over again what you love about your children. What do your kids do that only they can do to make you smile? My son is the only one on the planet that can flash those eyes and teeth and melt my heart! I know this and I look forward to it. Moms, plan for moments of laughter throughout the school year while in the car line, waiting after practices or trudging through homework. Lighten your life by knowing what makes you smile.
  5. Put everything in perspective: Before you know it, the kids are gone. I know this sounds cliché but, because I am acutely aware of how real this really is, I want to encourage you to stroll slowly through this school year rather than trying to get through it in a dash! The scariest thing you can do as a Mom is to will yourself to keep the bigger picture in mind. Don’t sacrifice the relationship with your kids while trying to preserve your reputation as “Mom.” It can be hard to keep the bigger picture in mind when they won’t get out of bed in the morning; but trust me it’s worth keeping a lifetime with your child in mind every single day this school year.

Jennifer Keitt is the author of the new book “Shake Up Your Life!” Please visit her website at http://www.jenniferkeitt.com  

When our kids were young, we took them to Orlando—you know the Mickey Mouse vacation—just like many of you have done. We were staying on International Drive, so my husband and I thought it would be cool to take the kids to Ripley’s Believe It Or Not. Ripley’s—for those of you who don’t know—is what they call an ODDITORIUM.  It’s a 10,000 square foot building that actually looks like it is falling into a Florida sinkhole. Cool right?! There are 16 unique galleries that pay tribute to the odd and strange, and weird artifacts and displays from across the globe.

So here goes the Keitt family through Ripley’s exploring and looking at all the stuff packed into this building—hoping to get every dime’s worth of entertainment that we can. We have baby’s and strollers, and little hands in tow–2 adults for four kids—going through area after area. As we climb the stairs, round the corner and proceed to enter into the next area of the exhibit, suddenly our oldest daughter Morgan broke free and bolted back down the stairs the way we had just come! It happened so fast, it took me by surprise and I was stunned for a brief moment. Morgan ran so far, so fast that when we finally caught up with her, she was in the corner of the gift store near the exit—Refusing to go back into what she called the scary building.

She was barely seven years old. How did my child even know what scary was? I asked her about that incident this week—she’s 25 now—and she said she still remembers the dark, red room and that she ran when she saw axes and torture equipment—It scared her and she ran.

At 7, she recognized scary—and evil. Morgan never did Disney movies either. You know there’s always a scene or character in every Disney movie that’s the evil villain, we even had to take Morgan out of “Bambi” because she was so sensitive toward anything dark or scary or evil.

Do you think that we all instinctively know evil?

 
I’m wondering, what do we do when we encounter evil in our everyday lives? Michael Welner is a forensic psychiatrist and he argues that some acts of evil aren’t even against the law. He says a boss who boosts his ego and gains stature by publicly humiliating his employees is evil. He says even stalkers or those who exploit the physical, mental or emotional vulnerability of others are evil.

The fact is, we can’t bolt and run away like my daughter Morgan did that day in Ripley’s when we see evil. So what do you do with the evil in your life? The evil people, places and things that you see and experience every day?

Virtually everyone knows what it’s like to feel really scared—a pounding heartbeat, faster breathing, nervous perspiration—but I wonder, as a society, because we see so much bad, EVIL stuff everyday are we desensitized to it? Do we just except and live with EVIL?

Is evil just a figment of Hollywood’s imagination or do you believe that evil is a being—the devil—who’s real and plagues mankind? For the first time ever, today, I’m going to explore the topic of evil, the really gross, bad and horrible that we see in our lives every, single day.

What’s evil to you? Is it a scary movie? Go to my FACEBOOK PAGE or TWEET me what you think. I refuse to see HORROR movies—I can’t sleep, I can’t eat! I’ve seen three horror movies in my entire life—CARRIE—which I promise did a number on me as a teen—I saw the original HALLOWEEN movie—why? I had nightmares about Jason for weeks and I saw THE EXORCIST—stupidest thing I’ve ever done! See, I believe the supernatural is very real and I don’t like jumping off into that realm “for fun!” What about you? Do you think that horror movies are harmless? Can houses be haunted by real evil spirits? What about tarot cards, psychics, horoscopes are all of these things just harmless fun, or is there a real force of evil behind them? What does everyday evil look like to you? Tell me on my FACEBOOK PAGE or TWEET me.

This was one of the most provocative conversations ever, listen to the entire show HERE.

 

Church - QfamilyBoy do I remember Easter Sunday growing up. All it takes is a flip through my Mom’s old photo albums looking at the pictures taken of me with my gloves—YEP little white gloves—my paten leather shoes, my frilly yellow dress, bonnet, and of course my Easter basket! Woah!
You know, Easter Sunday has one of the highest attendance records of any service of the year in most churches. Some people go to church only at Christmas and Easter and I read that those types of churchgoers are known as CEO’s which stands for Christmas and Easter Only!
But on the flip side, there are many, many people who go to church consistently as a source of strength and community. In fact—for black people—our faith, our values and beliefs have roots firmly entrenched in the church. For decades, the Black church has been THE place that the Black community relied on.
But I’m wondering if things are changing? Do you think we’ve gotten to a place in which we’ve gone OVERBOARD with our church connection?
There’s a brand new addiction surfacing that I want to talk about tonight. It’s called CHURCH ADDICITON. Mad Church Disease is on the rise ya’ll! Church Addicts are at church almost every time the church is open, working, serving, ministering regardless of the cost to one’s family, job, health or social life.
HOW MUCH is TOO MUCH when you’re talking about church? Is there such a thing as being “addicted” to ministry?
In an article entitled “IS THE CHURCH AN ADDICTIVE ORGANIZATION?” I was fascinated by the author’s discussion of churches in the 21st Century. Anne, the author, talks about a minister’s adult daughter who said, “my Dad was never home…he was always working for the church…even when he was home, he was “in the study” and we kids were not allowed to disturb him. If any of us complained about never seeing him, this minister’s daughter said, he always had the excuse that he was doing “the Lord’s work.”
I do believe that people equate their work in the church to working for the Lord. And THAT’S where the problem begins. Does the Lord require work for Him in the church? What about if you have a spouse or children or a job, how much is TOO much when it comes to church?
Now before you label me anti-church, or worse, anti-Christ or anti-God, please know that in just about four weeks I’m graduating from Seminary with a Master’s in Practical Theology. I’m a chaplain in a hospital here in Atlanta and for years I was on staff at an Atlanta-area church. I raise these questions and this provocative discussion out of deep concern for church and for those attending and professing the need for faith and God in their lives.
I want to know have we and are we crossing the proverbial line from good intentions into addiction? Have we become addicted to the “feelings” that we get in OUR CHURCH? The music, the tradition, the history or celebrity? How much is TOO MUCH when it comes to “THE LORD’S WORK” in our churches?
We’ve got to be able to look into our own mirrors and ask the tough questions. I can’t help but wonder what’s happening if our families end up feeling like that minister’s daughter felt? Let me tell you what she said in conclusion in that article. She said, “My dad, the minister, was respected for being a hard worker, but he was never loved.” She said, “He died in his late 40s and no one ever knew him. He did not really serve Christ or the church. I now know, she said, he served his disease.”
Wow. If MINISTER’S can be addicted to church and church work, what about the rest of us? Are we so bent on serving in church and serving the church that we are actually fulfilling our own needs instead of God’s?
If you’re maintaining a high level of activity in your church—but your kids are not being cared for or don’t ever see you, that’s a problem. If your bills are going unpaid because you’re supporting the church financially and you are in danger of losing your home or lights, THAT’S A PROBLEM. If you feel like you have no value unless you’re serving within the church, THEN SOMETHING IS WRONG!
I am your chief empowerment officer JENNIFER KEITT. Listen to the show HERE.
You can take the church addiction QUIZ for free. Just download the ToolKEITT from my website at http://www.jenniferkeitt.com. The Jennifer Keitt Show airs every Sunday 7-8 pm on KISS 104, Atlanta’s R&B.

 

iStock_000005509580_LargeCan I ask you something? Have you ever had a sleepless night worrying about money? Oh my goodness…I can’t tell you how much I worried about money. Raising four kids, I promise you I never thought we had enough. Honestly I was raised with a “not enough” mentality. My Dad taught me from a very young age to get in and stay in debt. His motto was “this country is built on credit and debt”—and what you don’t have, you can always borrow. My father got into as much debt as he could. When he got in over his head… he defaulted and kept it movin’.
He always, always had a get rich quick scheme up his sleeve. I remember one time when he returned from a trip he had all of these blueprints. He pulled them out and spread them all over the dining room table. He then showed my brothers and me the plot of land that he bought on an island to build a HOTEL. What! We were a very, very average WORKING family . . . we didn’t have the money to build a hotel, no less a hotel on the beach on an island in the Caribbean. Questions like, “Dad how are you going to run a hotel down there . . . what about us?” Or, “Dad, do you know any builders on the Island who can build a hotel?” Or this OBVIOUS one, “Dad, where are you going to get the money?” Of course for this one, he did have an answer . . . he had talked to the bank down there (of course they said no) so he was trying to devise some way of convincing family, friends or banks here in the States to LEND him the money for his dream. But he’d bought land…a tiny plot, with a falling down shack on it, miles from the beach.
My Dad always wanted to be rich. He just didn’t have a clue how to do it.
And so when I got married I brought my broke, robbing Peter to pay Paul, borrowing, poor mentality STRAIGHT into my marriage! My husband Tony—on the other hand—grew up in a family who saved, ALL THE TIME, so you can imagine what kind of trouble we had… oooo weee…the fights! I wished we did fight about where to invest or how much to save. NO WAY. We fought about who was going to answer the phone for all the bill collectors calling…or which bill WASN’T going to get paid so that we could pay our mortgage. FOR YEARS we lived with huge amounts of credit card debt, revolving loans . . . and we struggled to save. But every Sunday in church we heard how God wants us prosperous, rich even. So checking the mailbox for checks or believing that somehow magically money was going to rain down from heaven became my weekly plight.
It was the worst time of my life.
An article that I read online, at creativemoney.biz, talked about the TOP money arguments for couples. Couples argue about merging money—should you have one joint account or separate HIS and HERS accounts.  Couples also argue about dealing with debt. And couples also argue about managing spending.
But folks, let’s stop a second and ask, WHAT ARE WE DOING FIGHTING ABOUT MONEY? What’s the real issue? I believe it’s that we ALL in some way want to be RICH—in whatever way RICH looks like for you.
For me, I always wanted to be a baller. To have a really nice home, well-dressed kids, driving nice cars, vacationing in exotic places . . . I got all those desires from my Dad who tried to be baller—even if he didn’t have the money. The only problem with my desire to be RICH was that I didn’t have a clue on how to handle money! Newsflash, you can’t become rich without money!! AND…the savvy to know how to handle money is CRUCIAL for success. We are literally KILLING ourselves on these jobs trying to make a dollar. We are chasing get rich quick schemes…or we’re heading deeper into debt, taking out PAYDAY LOANS to make ends meet. I have been in the grocery store line with a CREDIT CARD praying the transaction goes through. I don’t wish that on my worst enemy. But you know, ladies and gentlemen we have become our worst enemy when it comes to MONEY—particularly in the Black community. Do you know that a poll by the National Foundation for Credit Counseling found that 63% of consumers admitted that their money problems were their own fault—self-inflicted! We admit privately that we’re overspending, and that we’re financially unorganized…that’s putting it nicely.
It’s time that somebody SHOWS US THE MONEY! Why aren’t Black people making more? Why aren’t women further ahead financially? Wait…here’s the big, ginormous question HOW DO I BECOME RICH?
LISTEN TO THE SHOW HERE.
I am your chief empowerment officer JENNIFER KEITT and on this show we went behind the curtain of Black millionaires lives. Go to http://www.jenniferkeitt.com to download your free ToolKEITT on Show Me The Money. It’s packed full of links, resources and questions to help you become wealthy. The Jennifer Keitt Show airs every Sunday on KISS 104, Atlanta from 7- 8 pm.

 

 

AA032448I want to talk to you about something that is very important in our lives—how we talk with one another.
I’ve had a pretty stressful weekend. In my life right now there are a ton of moving pieces. Uncertainty about the future, kids graduating High School and College…next moves that we have to make…lots of tension.
And you know in your life when there’s tension, there’s the possibility for arguments. You know how you get sometimes when the frustration builds in your life—maybe you don’t have the money to pay all of your bills, or your kids are acting the fool, driving you crazy, or your spouse or significant other doesn’t understand—or IS the problem. How to communicate during these times of anger and emotion and frustration can be a real big problem.
Conflict and arguments are a natural part of life, but sometimes, for many of us arguments, conflict and tension ARE THE NORMAL way that we try to live. Our lives and houses are filled with angst and cussing. We tiptoe around one another, walking on eggshells trying to keep the peace, or we explode, over everyone!
All my kids were home this weekend, and I woke up this morning with an uncomfortable pressure in my chest. Honestly, I wanted to run away because of all the tension that was going on—everyone in their own way is going through their own transitions in their lives, but collectively when we all got together, you could cut the tension with a knife. My tendency as the “OLD Jennifer” would have been to start screaming and yelling and telling everyone off and to get in line. When my kids were younger, you could always hear me yelling and screaming. I didn’t have any other skillset, but to argue. Eventually I did learn that’s not the best way to talk to those that I say that I love and now the NEW Jennifer stops arguing and starts talking.
We had a huge family meeting—a bearing of our souls—that took place over a few hours today. It was healing.
Arguments, fighting, tension, disagreements are a normal way of life. You know this. It’s how we handle them that becomes critical—especially if we say that we love people that at times we don’t like. How do you disagree without getting into a huge argument with one another? How do you handle difficult situations in your lives with the different personality types that you live with. At our family meeting today all six of our strong, distinct personalities were at the table. Two are analytical, critical, questioning, three are talkers, feelers, not having to necessarily make sense, one can be any combination of all of thee above…it’s not easy disagreeing in my house.
And I know it’s not easy in yours.
That’s why tonight’s show is about STOP Arguing and START Talking. I want you to have the BEST relationships possible, with your family, friends, co-workers, the people in your lives. But frankly in this day and age, I believe we are losing the battles. We don’t know how to constructively express our feelings. We don’t know where to draw the line. We don’t know how to argue or disagree without trying to be RIGHT or to WIN in the conversation. And our relationships are suffering tremendously for it.
The truth is, CONFLICT can bring us closer together.
After our family pow-wow, we went our separate ways and I started preparing for this show. My son came into my office, and said, “We needed that,” and walked away. I burst out laughing because he was right. Disagreements can be the first step in understanding each other better.
It’s time we faced the fact that we DON’T know how to fight. We DON’T know how to argue and still show love. We need to revisit our conflict resolution skills so that we can STOP Arguing and START Talking and have the relationships we desperately want.
Screaming, slamming doors, regretted words…we’re arguing with our spouses, best friends, and children. Do we WANT to get along anymore?
LISTEN TO THE SHOW HERE.
I am your chief empowerment officer JENNIFER KEITT. THE JENNIFER KEITT SHOW airs every Sunday from 7-8 pm on KISS 104, Atlanta’s R&B. Be sure to download your free ToolKEITT on Stop Arguing Start Talking! It has resources, questions, link and tools to help you communicate better with the people who you love in your life. Visit http://www.jenniferkeitt.com to download.

 

On June 28, 1986 at 7:00 pm in the evening at the Birmingham Wedding Chapel in Alabama I said I DO to myWedding Rings - Robert Wallis husband Tony! If you go to The KISS and Jennifer Keitt Show FACEBOOK PAGES (http://www.facebook.com/thejenniferkeittshow) you can see my wedding day picture. That was 27 years ago and we spent about $4,500.00 TOTAL—including my dress and our gold wedding bands. My hair was a HOT MESS…my daughter’s say the dress that I said YES to was classic 80’s and my reception was sparse to say the least—but hey, 27 years later, I’m still standing in marriage!
Today, the average wedding costs about $28,000.00 dollars and I found out this week—when I did an interview with Lori Allen and Monte Durham from TLC’S Say Yes To The Dress—that they have gowns in Lori’s store upwards of $20,000.00 dollars! Veils can cost as much as $2,000.00 dollars! That’s a TON of money to spend on the first day of what is supposed to be the rest of your life with someone!
I’m wondering, though, do we spend that much in time and preparation to STAY married? Nowadays I’m even questioning is marriage becoming OBSOLETE? With the number of couples opting for a variety of different configurations—from FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS to LONG-TERM boyfriend/girlfriend to LONG-TERM “piece” on the side, baby-mommas, baby-daddys and the status of being NOT married yet NOT single, hmmmm…I wonder, where does MARRIAGE fit in? Why are so many people opting out of saying “I DO” for a lifetime?
Now let me keep it real, I broke all the rules before getting married. Tony & I lived together for three years before tying the knot. According to most of the research, because we lived together, we were more likely to never get married, and according to the research we should have divorced within the first 7 years of our marriage. Well Tony proposed and we got married two weeks after I graduated from college. Because I was in my final semester I didn’t have time to plan a wedding. I was 22 years old! I didn’t know ANYTHING about weddings let alone getting married! We found a wedding chapel and the man who ran the chapel was also a wedding planner! We sat down one time with George, answered his questions about colors and flowers and punch—and I let him have at it as I hustled to finish up my degree.
Well why didn’t someone tell me that weddings bring out the drama and the crazy in your family? My Dad decided to act the biggest fool because—of all things—Tony & I wanted a DRY wedding…no booze. Now I know some of ya’ll choked on that one…but yeah, we opted for no alcohol! Honestly, I believe he gave me grief because he and my Mom at that time were in between divorce and child support and he wanted leverage. Well, I gave him the leverage…and leveraged him right out of the wedding! Yep…my younger brother gave me away on that day. Of course, I never lived that one down with my Dad. Between finishing my broadcasting degree…trying to coordinate a wedding and dealing with all of my FAMILY drama…Tony and I didn’t even think about how we were going to BE married and STAY married after June 28th!
I think back now and ask myself, “GIRL WERE YOU CRAZY?!” C’mon now, who would drive a car without lessons? Who can get a degree in any field without studying? Who would attempt to build a home without a blueprint or instructions? Yet, we get married without so much as a CLUE! We go on our “feelings!” WHAT?! It’s nothing short of a miracle that I was able to get and stay married to the same man for all these years.
I don’t want anyone to have to go through the hell that I went through. So let’s talk about where we are today. Has marriage become obsolete?
You know what I think part of the problem is?
We’re afraid. We’re afraid of failing at marriage, so we don’t bother to commit to it. We don’t know how to stay married, so we don’t try. We don’t value long-term commitment or “the piece of paper” as some call it so marriage doesn’t cross our minds.
Yet, I know there’s something DEEP INSIDE many of us that want a soulmate. We want to be with the love of our lives every day. We want long-term be with you forever kind of live. We want happiness and the contentment of knowing that someone loves us and cares enough to be with us for the rest of our lives.
How do we get there? That’s why I’m doing this show. So we can think about what we really want.
I think we’ve got to start EDUCATING ourselves about marriage. I had NO IDEA that there was a class or counseling that I could have gotten BEFORE I got married! Pre-marital counseling—I’d never heard of it! I didn’t realize that my wedding day wouldn’t help me ONE BIT when the you know what hit the fan and we had our first married-persons argument! Which dress I said YES to, was irrelevant when he got on my last nerve. When the kids came, what our guests ate at the wedding didn’t matter!
Are we investing more on our wedding day than on the marriage? LISTEN TO THE SHOW HERE.
I am your chief empowerment officer JENNIFER KEITT. The Jennifer Keitt Show on KISS 104, Atlanta’s R&B, is heard every Sunday from 7-8 pm ET. Be sure to download your free ToolKEITT for the Nearly Beloved Show. It’s full of resources, questions and links to help you as you are decided whether marriage is right for you. It’s on my website at http://www.jenniferkeitt.com.

 

 

get-over-it-and-move-onYou know I’m finally at the place where I think we need to LET GO of changing the time forward and back here in the U.S. and just leave it alone. Same time year round.
But I realize, that sometimes it’s hard to let go of things—especially when your whole life has been wrapped up in something.
This past week, I had a really trying day. A day that started straight from hell. I was traveling out of town. First, I thought I knew how to get back to the airport from my hotel. I didn’t. At 7:45 am, I was 30 MINUTES away from the car rental facility and my flight was leaving at 9:00! Thank God I WASN’T in Atlanta and the traffic gods were on my side…made it to the car rental place, boarded the car rental mini-bus and headed to the airport. I started to breathe…looked around at my belongings, made a mental note NOT to leave my laptop sitting next to me and enjoyed the five- minute ride.
When the driver stopped for my terminal, I grabbed my stuff and hurried to check-in. I walked through the glass doors of the terminal and felt that something was missing. I felt “lighter” and realized that I didn’t have my laptop! It was on the mini-bus that I saw driving away as I turned around.
The tears started welling up instantly. My life is on that laptop!
I quickly went into a tailspin because it was 8:35 and my flight was boarding in 25 minutes and I didn’t even have my boarding pass yet! I started dialing the rental car place…couldn’t get past that STUPID computerized system! I couldn’t think, I couldn’t calm down…I saw everything crumbling because I was faced right then and there with a choice—get on the plane and let go of the laptop with my whole life on it—DOCUMENTS and INFORMATION that I couldn’t easily replace—or chase down the laptop and miss my flight. The next flight wasn’t ‘til later in the afternoon, we had our small group meeting in our home that night, I wouldn’t be prepared and the whole day would be a complete disaster.
I called my rock—my husband Tony.
You’ve been here in your life more times that you can count. Not in my airport mess…but in your own LIFE MESS. You’ve been walking through life with issues that continue to derail you. The pain from that bad breakup, abusive family members, or childhood taunting that STILL impacts your self-confidence today. You’ve lived in the domino effect of when one thing goes wrong—like dominos—everything starts going wrong in your life. You get laid off from a job, can’t find work for a long time, bills pile up, you loose the house, relationship can’t take the break…you loose it and domino after domino falls. Or one HOT night of sex, leads to an unwanted pregnancy, which leads to the decision to abort and now you feel empty—domino after domino. Just like my day on Friday.
Life deals us some pretty nasty scenarios and ladies and gentlemen sometimes we need HELP getting over stuff.
Back at the airport on the phone with my husband he took control and yelled at me to calm down! Don’t think that was bad, it wasn’t. It was EXACTLY what I needed. INTERVENTION! He’d call the car rental company to track down the laptop, I would miss my flight, take a cab and go get my laptop. As I ran to the cab stand on the other side of the terminal, I slowly let go of all the dominos that would fall by missing the flight and I GOT OVER IT as I ran on the moving sidewalk.
Just then, I looked out the window and saw the car rental mini-bus! OOOOWEEEE! It was sitting outside the terminal. I bolted down the escalator, out the door and ran up to the mini-bus. The driver let me in and there it was sitting where I left it. I thanked him, grabbed it and ran back to check in.
I made the flight, with the laptop and learned that letting go and getting over stuff really works. It helps to bring clarity.
But what about REAL SERIOUS ISSUES. I know losing a laptop may not sound big to you—it is to me—and that’s the interesting thing about GETTING OVER STUFF. No matter how it appears to everyone else, if you’ve got something that’s holding YOU back, it’s huge. It’s big. It may seem insurmountable. It’s real for you, and it needs to be taken seriously by you.
How do we GET OVER miscarriages, or death of a loved one, or discrimination, never reaching our dreams, being a single parent, being shunned from church or not trusting anyone? Can we get over our PAST, grudges that we’ve held onto, getting fired or not getting a promotion? That’s what this show is about tonight GET OVER IT ALREADY! This may just be the most important conversation you’ve ever had. There’s power in telling our stories and hearing other’s stories.
LISTEN TO THE SHOW HERE.
I am your chief empowerment officer JENNIFER KEITT and The Jennifer Keitt Show is heard on KISS 104, Atlanta’s R&B, every Sunday from 7-8 pm. Be sure to visit my website at http:/www.jenniferkeitt.com to download your free ToolKEITT from this show. It’s packed with tools, questions and resources to help you “get over it” in your life.

 

This past Friday, I had a really trying day. A day that started straight from hell. I was traveling out of town. First, I thought I knew how to get back to the airport from my hotel. I didn’t. At 7:45 am, I was 30 MINUTES away from the car rental facility and my flight was leaving at 9:00! Thank God I WASN’T in Atlanta and the traffic gods were on my side…made it to the car rental place, boarded the car rental mini-bus and headed to the airport. I started to breathe…looked around at my belongings, made a mental note NOT to leave my laptop sitting next to me and enjoyed the five- minute ride.
When the driver stopped for my terminal, I grabbed my stuff and hurried to check-in. I walked through the glass doors of the terminal and felt that something was missing. I felt “lighter” and realized that I didn’t have my laptop! It was on the mini-bus that I saw driving away as I turned around.
The tears started welling up instantly. My life is on that laptop!
I quickly went into a tailspin because it was 8:35 and my flight was boarding in 25 minutes and I didn’t even have my boarding pass yet! I started dialing the rental car place…couldn’t get past that STUPID computerized system! I couldn’t think, I couldn’t calm down…I saw everything crumbling because I was faced right then and there with a choice—get on the plane and let go of the laptop with my whole life on it—DOCUMENTS and INFORMATION that I couldn’t easily replace—or chase down the laptop and miss my flight. The next flight wasn’t ‘til later in the afternoon, we had our small group meeting in our home that night, I wouldn’t be prepared and the whole day would be a complete disaster.
I called my rock—my husband Tony.
You’ve been here in your life more times that you can count. Not in my airport mess…but in your own LIFE MESS. You’ve been walking through life with issues that continue to derail you. The pain from that bad breakup, abusive family members, or childhood taunting that STILL impacts your self-confidence today. You’ve lived in the domino effect of when one thing goes wrong—like dominos—everything starts going wrong in your life. You get laid off from a job, can’t find work for a long time, bills pile up, you loose the house, relationship can’t take the break…you loose it and domino after domino falls. Or one HOT night of sex, leads to an unwanted pregnancy, which leads to the decision to abort and now you feel empty—domino after domino. Just like my day on Friday.
Life deals us some pretty nasty scenarios and ladies and gentlemen sometimes we need HELP getting over stuff.
Back at the airport on the phone with my husband he took control and yelled at me to calm down! Don’t think that was bad, it wasn’t. It was EXACTLY what I needed. INTERVENTION! He’d call the car rental company to track down the laptop, I would miss my flight, take a cab and go get my laptop. As I ran to the cab stand on the other side of the terminal, I slowly let go of all the dominos that would fall by missing the flight and I GOT OVER IT as I ran on the moving sidewalk.
Just then, I looked out the window and saw the car rental mini-bus! OOOOWEEEE! It was sitting outside the terminal. I bolted down the escalator, out the door and ran up to the mini-bus. The driver let me in and there it was sitting where I left it. I thanked him, grabbed it and ran back to check in.
I made the flight, with the laptop and learned that letting go and getting over stuff really works. It helps to bring clarity.
But what about REAL SERIOUS ISSUES. I know losing a laptop may not sound big to you—it is to me—and that’s the interesting thing about GETTING OVER STUFF. No matter how it appears to everyone else, if you’ve got something that’s holding YOU back, it’s huge. It’s big. It may seem insurmountable. It’s real for you, and it needs to be taken seriously by you.
How do we GET OVER miscarriages, or death of a loved one, or discrimination, never reaching our dreams, being a single parent, being shunned from church or not trusting anyone? Can we get over our PAST, grudges that we’ve held onto, getting fired or not getting a promotion? That’s what this show is about tonight GET OVER IT ALREADY! This may just be the most important conversation you’ve ever had. There’s power in telling our stories and hearing other’s stories.
I am your chief empowerment officer JENNIFER KEITT. Listen to this powerful show HERE .
The Jennifer Keitt Show is heard every Sunday from 7-8pm exclusively on KISS 104, Atlanta’s R&B!
Our lives have changed so tremendously . . . I’ve gone from catching up with girlfriends over the phone when we could tear away from our lives and families to being able to see minute by minute updates on what friends connected to me ate for dinner.
 
REALLY?
 
 
Am I the ONLY one who’s wondered why do I need to know that you just got up this morning? Do I really want to SEE your child’s first potty?! … Now I’m being facetious—maybe—but the truth of the matter is, we have entered into what some are calling SHAREPOCOLYSE!!! How much should you tell you your significant other to your social media friends and followers? When is the right time to add to your profile that you’re dating someone? If you’re all kissy-faced with someone on Friday night…is it cool to post the photo and tag him or her in it…WITHOUT their permission? Do you stalk your ex’s facebook page? Do you follow people on twitter to spy? DO YOU FEEL LIKE YOU HAVE NO LIFE because everyone else posts moments in their 
lives showing all that they have going on???
 
 
WHEN IS IT ENOUGH ALREADY as it relates to our social media updating?!
 
 
Here’s some very telling stats so that you can get an idea of where we’re headed…
40% of people spend MORE TIME socializing online than they do face-to-face. When I see friends or associates and they ask me questions about things that I haven’t shared with them because they read it on my FACEBOOK PAGE I start to worry. PICK UP THE PHONE AND CALL ME! I am a relator…I don’t want to relate via POSTS!
 
 
Here’s some more unbelievable data:
EVERY MINUTE of EVERY DAY:
100,000 tweets are sent…in 2012 there were 175 
MILLION TWEETS SENT every day! If we had a dollar for every tweet ya’ll…c’mon we’d be zillionaires!
Every MINUTE of EVERY DAY:
Over 684,000 pieces of content are shared on FACEBOOK. Every diaper change, every promotion, every scripture of the day, every wedding, every funeral, every phone call, promotion and hairstyle is shared EVERY MINUTE of EVERY DAY! What is our problem??
 
 
We are pinning on PINTEREST. We are INSTANT on INSTAGRAM…we are WATCHING on YOUTUBE…we tweet, we post, we search—oh, google estimates 2 MILLION SEARCH QUERIES are done EVERY MINUTE, of EVERY DAY. We must be the smartest, wisest, friendliest, happiest people on the planet with all of this connection going on,
RIGHT?
 
 
WRONG!
 
 
We are the most disconnected, unfulfilled, saddest, loneliest that we’ve ever been.
 
 
WHY? It’s because we are OVERLOADED and UNDERSATISFIED!
 
 
There is a new term coming to the surface called F.O.M.O. It means THE FEAR OF MISSING OUT…and psychologists say it’s a social media addiction that leads to the fear of missing out on something or someone more interesting, exciting or better than what we’re currently doing. Ladies and Gentlemen, on social media networks THERE IS ALWAYS SOMEONE or SOMETHING happening that is MORE EXCITING OR BETTER than what we’re currently doing! That’s how posting works. We post the best, the brightest, the thing that we want to brag about –excuse me the thing we want to SHARE that makes us look interesting, exciting and like we have it going on!
 
 
Now, I’ll just focus on me—I won’t talk about you. But you better believe I post on The Jennifer Keitt Show page the information that I believe is MOST COMPELLING, MOST PROVOCATIVE, MOST USEFUL AND HELPFUL for my followers lives. On my personal page…I’ve moved almost entirely away from posting personal things. Occasionally I will throw up my fun or brag pictures about me, my kids and my family…but please be clear…my social media strategy is simple: I DON’T WANT YOU TO KNOW ME FOR REAL THROUGH FACEBOOK OR TWITTER…I WANT TO FORM A REAL IN-PERSON RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU!!! You don’t know me if you’re friends with me on Facebook or follow me on twitter. And I want you to KNOW ME—the real me. And that’s going to require talking, meeting, investing in a relationship. Skills that I’m afraid we are losing rapidly.
 
 
In my car, I have Bluetooth connected to my phone so I can talk hands-free. The other day my youngest daughter SAMANTHA was in the car with me as I made the rounds calling my other kids and Tony my husband. She then asked me…why isn’t my number on your redial list. I turned to her and said, YEAH SAM, why isn’t your PHONE NUMBER on my REDIAL LIST
? Could it be because we don’t talk on the phone because you don’t EVER use your phone to talk, you only communicate via TEXT MESSAGE! That’s the only way I can talk to this girl is by TEXT! What in the world?
 
 
Let’s have fun . . . and let’s learn what’s behind our social media obsession. To listen to this show, click here. I am your chief empowerment officer JENNIFER KEITT. The Jennifer Keitt Show can be heard every Sunday evening from 7-8 pm exclusively on KISS 104, Atlanta’s R&B.

 

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